Honestly that sounds like a voltage regulation issue with the wiring. Could be faulty on the LED side or the wiring side, but mine are completely fine with the same bulbs. Also, make sure you're pushing them in all the way (I guess?)I'm familiar with polarity and I have modded the lighting in all 5 of my cars in the last 7 years. It happens when both are LED. No issues when one is halogen. Similar to my 2017 Sportage except that wouldn't even let me shift out of park. The Stinger will let me shift out of park but again the bulbs are on 100% of the time. Oh well, appreciate your walk through though.
Also, these are not poled LEDs, they work in both orientations. They have internal rectifiers to work with current in both directions. Flipping them shouldn't make a difference.